Marry Him!

Illustration by Lou Brooks
About six months after my son was born, he and I were sitting on a blanket at the park with a close friend and her daughter. It was a sunny summer weekend, and other parents and their kids picnicked nearby—mothers munching berries and lounging on the grass, fathers tossing balls with their giddy toddlers. My friend and I, who, in fits of self-empowerment, had conceived our babies with donor sperm because we hadn’t met Mr. Right yet, surveyed the idyllic scene.
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Marry Him!

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4 Reasons You Gain Weight When You Meet Your Mate
By Emily Battaglia, LifeScript Staff Writer
Published September 29, 2006
Candlelit dinners and Netflix/pizza nights make for great dates with the new person in your life, but while your new love may last, your pre-boyfriend slim figure might not. New love is time-and mind-consuming, and when you’re blowing off gym time for snuggle time and trading in your Lean Cuisines for decadent dinners, you’re blowing off your health. And weight gain doesn’t just happen in new relationships; married women fall prey to this phenomenon, too. Find out why women in love gain weight and how you can keep that girlish figure you began with. Plus: Test your calorie IQ…
 
Physical attraction plays a huge part in your relationship compatibility – it’s one of the reasons why you were attracted as a whole to each other in the first place. And you probably put a lot of effort into your looks when you first started dating. But once you start celebrating month or year anniversaries, chances are that you’re so comfortable in your relationship that impressing your partner isn’t always your first priority anymore. 
Months of watching the numbers on your scale climb may turn into years, and before you know it, you’re married and heavier than ever before. A study conducted by Cornell University found that newlyweds gain more weight on average than single people or widowers or divorcees, usually within the first two years of getting married. It’s also no surprise that many women in love find that they are getting fat steadily throughout the marriage. So what does this all tell us? We shouldn’t bother getting married if we want to stay slim? Of course not! In order to avoid packing on the relationship weight, you have to know why this seemingly unexplained weight gain can be explained – so let us count the ways:
 
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Reasons You Gain Weight

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Independence and the "Fighting Spirit" of the Vincentian People


by Ta' Neil James on Friday, 26 October 2012 at 22:29 



Been hearing Perseverance by Mr. Rasum Shallow a lot lately. Always knew it was a good song, but never internalised the lyrics until now. I honestly believe it is one of the greatest songs written in the world lol, and it got me thinking, and well writing too... been a while since I have done that lol. Here goes...


For a considerable period in its history, the Caribbean region was characterised by a socio-economic structure based primarily on plantation agriculture revolving around sugar. For much of that time, plantation labour was equated with slavery characterised by inhumane living and working conditions.   Historian Franklyn Knights asserts that slavery in Caribbean society was in every respect a wretched form of labour organisation.  Moreover, many scholars have agreed that the end of enslavement did very little, if any to improve conditions for the masses. For centuries therefore, Caribbean people, including Vincentians had to struggle in a society that was deliberately designed to control and stifle their aspirations and development socially, economically and politically.

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Elma Francois 1897-1944

November 03, 2002
by Corey Gilkes


Elma FrancoisOctober 14th marked the birth of one of the most vociferous Africentric activists in the history of Trinidad & Tobago and the Caribbean. She is Elma Constance Francois. In the study of the struggle of African people on the Continent and in the Diaspora to free themselves of European and Arab domination and redefine their existence the women who were the standard bearers of those struggles are often given less attention than their male counterparts. Even when they are acknowledged, the names of Sojourner Truth, Harriet Tubman, Angela Davis are the names spoken. Elma and her contemporaries gave the lie to the myths about meek acceptance of colonialism by the colonised and to the lack of political and social consciousness among women. 
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Elma Francois 1897-1944

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We tend to worry about the things we say and about the things we do, but sometimes what hurts people most are the things we don't do, or the things we don't say.

For example, saying, "I am sorry". Some people find it easier to say "I love you", while others simply avoid saying both. 

Anyways...
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Coward of the County

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Ever felt like you were giving your all to something, or someone, but simply not getting back anything?

You would give your last meal to that person if you had to but still they would not be satisfied; they would still stretch out their arms looking for more.

Many relationships are like this, so what do you do?

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Nothing left

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GOOD MORNING WORLD!!!!!



To those who have been asking about the blog updates, thank you, it is a good feeling to know that you have actually been looking for them.

I took a little break from blogging, not a planned holiday, was just going through writer's block I suppose...little or no inspiration.
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HELOOOOOO

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We are women!

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OECS Assembly Speaker Confident of Success




Speaker of the OECS Assembly Hon. Rene Baptiste




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Newly Appointed Speaker of the OECS Assembly

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Andrea Bowman, Headmistress of the Girls’ High School, says her school is on the hunt for a 100% pass rate. 




The Vincentian
  •  Thu, Aug 16, 2012

Students of the graduating class of 2012 of the Girls’ High School are nothing short of proud of their school’s performance in this year’s CSEC Examinations. At 12 am on Saturday, students were given access to the online database where they were able to check their scores. The CXC’s on-line release of the 2012 CSEC results for the Girls’ High School reveals an overall pass rate of 96.78%.  Twelve of the twenty-four subject areas recorded 100% passes, with the pass rates in the other twelve subjects ranging from 80% to 99%.  
 
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The Vincentian
• Thu, Aug 16, 2012

The St. Joseph’s Convent Kingstown outdid themselves in this year’s CSEC Examinations, securing an overall pass rate of 89 percent which placed the school second in overall performance for the first time ever. The school offered 24 subjects for examinations this year.
 
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SJCK Takes The Number 2 Spot

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An excerpt from Playing Favorites



Read more: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2094371,00.html#ixzz23EZMiGkl




The Pain of the Second Best
For all this familial compensating, psychologists — to say nothing of parents themselves — rightly wonder what the long-term damage of favoritism may be. Can you go through your entire childhood looking enviously at the crowned prince or princess across the dinner table and not develop some psychic scars?
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This girl spins me around too often!

Read and enjoy.

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Running with Wolves

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Gold medal winner, Jamaica\'s Shelly-Ann Fraser-Pryce, left, crosses the finish line ahead of silver medal winner United States\' Carmelita Jeter during the women\'s 100-meter final - AP Photo

Shelly Ann Fraser-Pryce Strikes Gold For Jamaica, Jamaica Gleaner


I am yet to sit down in front of a television and watch an Olympic race, match...

I do look at the videos posted online though, so I am not totally in the dark.


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2012 Olympic Games

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Lately, when I am on Facebook, there is always some guy liking a booty shot on a particular page.

First time I saw the notice, I followed the link to see the photo, the second time it happened I did the same and I looked through quite a few of the shots.


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Idle Entry

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Click on the link below for everything from Coconut Slice to Black Cake.

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Vincentian Recipes

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Got this in an email 'as is' years ago. Enjoy!






This was a speech made by Pulitzer Prize-winning author, Anna Quindlen

"I'm a novelist. My work is human nature. Real life is all I know.
Don't ever confuse the two, your life and your work.
You will walk out of here this afternoon with only one thing that no
one else has.
There will be hundreds of people out there with your same degree:
there will be thousands of people doing what you want to do for a
living.

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Learn to be Happy

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There is a group on Facebook called- "Black is really beautiful, and we must be proud of it", needless to say I love the group.

It never ceases to surprise me though, the mixed reaction I, and others would get when we post images from this group.
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Black and proud?

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Thanks for sharing this Lisa! 






Getting What We Want 

I usually know what I want, and I like to get it. I'm exactly like most people. When we don't get what we want, our negative feelings flare up. 

Too often, we Christians expect life to be perfect and for everything to go smoothly for us. We expect success, happiness, joy, peace, and everything else. When we're thwarted, we pout or complain. 
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Getting What We Want

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The more I listen to people read at public functions, in classrooms, on news programmes... I am becoming more and more convinced that parents and teachers need to place more emphasis on teaching children the principles of reading.

Hopefully I can find a good link soon to add to this note.
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Reading is FUNdamental!

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Are men deep thinkers?

I have  a friend who believes that some men are; that there are men who need time to asses a relationship to see whether or not the woman is worth it.

I disagree, forgive me but I don't think relationships are that complicated. I don't think that most men take that approach at all.

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Deep Thinkers?

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5 behaviors that drive bosses crazy

By Robert Half International





Certain things you do endear you to your boss. And then there are those that frustrate your supervisor and may even jeopardize your future.

Unfortunately, your manager may not always tell you that your behavior is driving him up the wall. Here are some of the top offenses that could land you in the corporate hall of shame:

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How to Drive Your Boss Crazy

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Modern Etiquette: Tips for grads on nailing the job interview
ETIQUETTE-JOB-INTERVIEWS:Modern Etiquette: Tips for grads on nailing the job interview
Reuters / By Pamela Eyring
WASHINGTON Jun 24, 2012, 12:54 IST







washington  06 24, 2012, 13:00 IST

 Simply put: One of the biggest keys to being asked to join the professional world is looking and acting professional.

However, a recent survey of more than 500 human resources and business professionals found that half of all college graduates do not exhibit professionalism at work.

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Modern Etiquette

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My Hair

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I am always amazed at business people who come up with odd prices, $9.99, $0.99 and then give me back my one cent as though, it's not mine.
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Leave Your Change Please

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There are many women who get upset by the expression- "Sit like a lady"...some think it's sexist, some say it's derogatory. Believe you me I have heard quite a few arguments.

At the end of the day I still use it. I feel I have to say it.

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Sit like a lady

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'Women Must Quit Devil's Pills And Take Man's Seed'




By AVA TURNQUEST
Tribune Staff Reporter
aturnquest@tribunemedia.net
photo
Former DNA candidate for Bain and Grants town Rodney Moncur
FORMER DNA candidate and social activist Rodney Moncur took to Twitter yesterday to warn women against the medical and spiritual dangers of contraceptives.
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Birth Control Pills Against the Will of God

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Mary Prince: an editorial from Bermuda’s Royal Gazette

From a post by- lisaparavisini | June 12, 2012



Government’s decision to make Mary Prince a national hero and to commemorate her contribution to the abolition of slavery is welcome, even if it is overdue—an editorial from Bermuda’s Royal Gazette.
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Mary Prince honoured as National Hero in Bermuda

Posted by: lisaparavisini | June 9, 2012

Mary Prince is to be recognised next week as the Island celebrates National Heroes Day, theRoyal Gazette reports.
Government announced today that the famed slave would be honoured at an induction service on Saturday, June 16.
The holiday will be observed on Monday, June 18.
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Mary Prince

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There are some ills in life that you expect.

Insults, criticisms, rejection, being trampled on...

The thing is though no matter how much you expect something to happen, that moment when it does still somehow lands you flat on your face.

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Predictable

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Kim Simplis Barrow, wife of Belizean Prime Minister shares her story- Fight Against Breast Cancer






Another video I found.


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Kim Simplis Barrow

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So today I was in the bank, yeah you know the bank right? lol Of course you don't know which bank.

Anyways, I am in the bank and a gentle man and a young lady come in. The bank is full, I mean ram packed, but I notice them because they call a teller away from her customer. My farseness goes into prime mode because I have been in the bank line now for about forty minutes and any thing other than standing still is entertaining.

Allow me now to try summarize what takes place.

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Some things you just don't do.

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 Angela Cropper


Feature Address delivered by Angela Cropper to Humanities and Education
Graduating Students at the University of the West Indies, St. Augustine,
Trinidad, 2007.

 

 May I begin by thanking the Faculty for honoring me with an invitation to present the Feature Address at this Prize Award Ceremony. I am so pleased to be here to share this moment with these high performers! I congratulate the students for the choice they have made to pursue their course of education in the Faculty of Humanities and Education, and for their achievements which we are celebrating this evening.





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Sins of Caribbean Culture

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Today I went into a government department, which I suppose is not very 'popular' at the end of the month; and was reminded that sometimes there really is no service in Customer Service.


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No Service in 'Customer Service'

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99% of Breast Cancer Tissue Contained This Everyday Chemical (NOT Aluminum)




By Dr. Mercola
New research examining parabens found in cancerous human breast tissue points the finger at antiperspirants and other cosmetics for increasing your risk of breast canceri.
The research, which is also reviewed in an editorial published in the Journal of Applied Toxicology, looked at where breast tumors were appearing, and determined that higher concentrations of parabens were found in the upper quadrants of the breast and axillary area, where antiperspirants are usually appliedii.
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Parabens and Breast Cancer

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What is a Contemporary Caribbean Woman?
by Natalie McGuire



“These Women are not playing History’s game, and they refuse to be trapped in a dream” – Annie Paul (1998)

Market vendor women, dancing women, women carrying baskets of fruit on their head, women wearing aprons. These are the dominating images of the female in ‘Caribbean Art’ that adorns our gallery walls, hotel rooms, and gift shop souvenirs. Depictions of women as subservient, poor, not particularly attractive, and all from the same ethnic background. If someone never had contact with the Caribbean other than these images, they would possibly be somewhat disappointed when visiting to find a scarcity of women, as such, in any island.
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Caribbean women in Art

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Heritage Ride is a series I was able to be a part of a few years ago. The videos might not be available to persons who are not on Facebook, sorry.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=1138466860250&set=t.1184731197&type=3
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Heritage Ride

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Seven Things I've Learned From 20 Years Of Marriage


Shaun Egan/Getty Images

When Jenna Goudreau, who is getting married in a few weeks, recently invited FORBES colleagues to share their best advice for the bride and groom (or couple) on their wedding day, several staffers fired back with one word: “Elope!”
I heartily disagree. Next month, my husband and I will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary and we both look back on the day we got married as the second happiest day of our lives. (The first was when our son was born, one day before our fifth anniversary.)
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Marriage Lessons

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I was at a function recently, a little community activity, and was having a chat with a friend about how good it was that the DJ had chosen to play 'back in time music'. You know those old songs that you listen to that just put you in a mood to chat, and laugh with your friends. The kind of music that would make you grab somebody and just twirl them around a dance floor, and they won't mind. Not the grind up on somebody music, or the shoot up somebody music...no no music that your pastor and his wife could groove to and not feel any shame or have any fear of damnation. :)

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Please Stop Mr. DJ!!

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8 Etiquette Tips To Keep In Mind (click on topic to visit the original post)


Wherever you are, whoever you are with, and whatever you are doing, keep these 8 etiquette tips in mind, and you’ll do great for yourself in life!
1. SMILE
Smile and the world will smile back at you. Or not. But the important thing is you did smile and that shows your good nature. So smile and let your smile attract some goodwill from the others.
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Etiquette Tips

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For Those In The LA AREA – Come Out to Support Caribbean Culture & Caribbean People’s Historical Contributions


Email from: Reese Charleswell


WE ARE THE CARIBBEAN: Panel Discussion & Celebration 

Weschester - The WE ARE THE CARIBBEAN: Panel Discussion & Celebration of Caribbean-American Heritage Month will be held on Saturday June 2, 2012 at 2PM at The Theater inside of Piccolo’s Bookstore, located at 6081 Center Drive, Weschester, CA 90045, (Howard Hughes Parkway & Sepulveda Blvd).


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We are the Caribbean

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How to Wear Fishnet Stockings Without Looking like a Woman of the Night



Fishnet stockings, once the domain of women of the night, have been brought to the fashion fore front and can be seen on runways and on the streets of large cities. While many women are hesitant to wear this style because of the fear of looking too risqué, there are ways to incorporate this look into a respectable outfit to add a touch of style and flair. Here's how to wear fishnet stockings without looking like a woman of the night:
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On Fishnet Stockings

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Haiti - Diplomacy : Two young Haitian, CARICOM Youth Ambassador
01/05/2012 11:45:44


Haiti - Diplomacy : Two young Haitian, CARICOM Youth Ambassador


The Directorate of Youth and of the insertion (DJI) and the Ministry of Youth, presented during a ceremony last week, as part of Youth Ambassador Program of the Youth, established by the DJI, the two new young Haitian ambassadors, Nickson Athis and Cindy Ferla Morquette to CARICOM (Caribbean Community). Was present at the ceremony, many celebrities, among others: Ambassador of the Bahamas, representatives of UNICEF, the Minister of MJSAC, the Director of the Youth Parliament in Haiti and the Director of the youth Roodly Simon who declared "We realized this ceremony to show the public [...] our willingness to go forward and allow these Ambassadors to have the opportunity to advocate for other youth at the level the Caribbean region."
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Youth Ambassadors- Haiti

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Testimonies: Dating an alcoholic

by Sarah Cook

How do you know when you're dating an alcoholic? Better yet, how do you avoid dating one in the first place?
The answer is fairly simple. If you're in a relationship with someone who's always drinking, drunk, or drained from drinking the night before, odds are, they have a problem with alcohol.
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Are you dating an alcoholic?

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I was in the shower a few minutes ago, the tv was on and audible...a commercial came on talking about some sorta "relay"; I gathered that it was a bit like an answering machine for your door...something to ward off intruders.

I had to laugh.

The voice of the system asks- "Can I help you?".

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Knock Knock

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A happy twist in the tale of literature's great outsider

A blue plaque will honour Jean Rhys, whose life was marked by alcoholism, prostitution and doomed affairs

Jean Rhys
 Today, the author will receive some recognition for her contribution to post-colonial literature when English Heritage unveils a blue plaque at the London home she shared with the second of her three husbands. Rhys's champions, who remain few nearly 33 years after her death, believe the small honour is long overdue, and will go some way to restore the reputation of one of English literature's more complex writers.


"Rhys was one of those authors who challenges readers and as a result is easier to forget," says Lilian Pizzichini, whose biography of the author, The Blue Hour: A Portrait of Jean Rhys, was published in 2009. "A lot of the reviews of my book said I'd been seduced by her, that I should have taken a moral position. I found that astonishing. Why should I take a moral position?"

Rhys was always an outsider. "She falls between so many camps," Pizzichini explains. "She's not white, she's not black. She's classless. So it's hard for people to get a handle on her. She was an elusive, a solitary figure, who was never part of a set."

She was born Ella Gwendoline Rees Williams in Dominica in 1890. The daughter of a Welsh physician and a white Creole of Scottish descent, she moved to Britain in her late teens and enrolled at the Royal Academy of Dramatic Art. Mocked for her Caribbean accent, she left for a life of bit parts, chorus lines and travelling companies under her stage name, Jean Rhys.

Pretty and needy, Rhys attracted a string of men upon whom she would come to depend. In 1919, she married a Dutch journalist and moved to Paris. They split after she began an affair with the writer Ford Madox Ford. Abandonment by Ford sent her into a deep depression and she developed a dependence on alcohol and men, some of whom paid her for sex, and she had an abortion. She was only helped out of the hole – and into writing – by Ford's earlier recognition in her of a powerful combination of her colonial perspective with a distinctive "stream of consciousness" technique. Their doomed relationship inspired her first novel, Quartet, published in 1928.

Rhys returned to London in the same year and later married her literary agent, Leslie Tilden Smith. More books followed and the couple lived for two years at Paultons House, on the square of the same name in Chelsea. It was here that Rhys flourished as a writer and where she completed Good Morning, Midnight. Like much of her writing, it portrayed a mistreated, vulnerable woman. "She really interrogated the position of the female urban outsider," Pizzichini says. "She was so far ahead of her time."

But critics hated the gritty urban underworld she depicted, as well as her sparse style. "People were affronted by her unladylike behaviour," Pizzichini says. "She wrote graphically about prostitution and abortion and how easy it is to slip into a world of predatory men."

At Paultons Square, Rhys's plaque will be one of only a dozen or so English Heritage unveils each year. But residents offered mainly blank looks when asked about their former neighbour. "Isn't she a scientist?" asked one woman yesterday. "I didn't know she lived here."

After Tilden Smith's death in 1945, Rhys married for a third time, and in 1960 moved to Devon, where she wrote Wide Sargasso Sea, published in 1966, and died in 1979. It was this novel, which portrays the first Mrs Rochester's Caribbean childhood, that brought her fame, earning greater recognition than herself.

Additional reporting by Charlie Cooper

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I had a very interesting week at work.  On one particular day it struck me that most children are really quite convinced that they are smarter than adults.

My students are in class doing work, one particular child has her head down, like the others, but it is not tilted in the same direction. Her focus seems to be more in her lap, than on her desk. I sit there looking at her  for about two minutes, just waiting to see what her hands do. Ahh moment of clarity. Her right hand goes down and makes a sweeping motion...tsk tsk.

If you are a school teacher I am sure you have had similar experiences.

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Been there! Done that!

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Turning 30: 30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know

Posted: 04/24/2012 11:43 am Updated: 04/24/2012 12:47 pm
In 1997, Glamour magazine published a story titled "30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30." The list, written by Pamela Redmond Satran, was so popular that women started emailing it around, misattributing it to various female luminaries including Maya Angelou and Hillary Clinton. Noting what a phenomenon it had become, the editors of Glamour created a book around it, featuring essays from (mostly) famous women on each of the items on the list. The book, released today, includes meditations from Katie Couric on work and love, Portia de Rossi on accepting your body, and one from the list's original author, who is also a Huffington Post blogger, on how to live alone.
Because the list still makes us so, so happy, we asked Glamour's permission to reprint it here:

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30 Things Every Woman Should have...

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So, I said to my friend, "Let us go and buy your lunch now before all the good stuff is gone", his response, "Nah we go wait".

We waited...by the time we got there all the good stuff were gone.


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Ring dem ear!

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Every now and then  while surfing the net I come across something that makes me go "hmm". It could be anything, a picture, an essay, a comment on a social network...anything. So below for your entertainment I have listed a few of the things that make me go "hmm".

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Hmm

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Nine Things Successful People Do Differently

By.  Heidi Grant Halvorson

Heidi Grant Halvorson


Why have you been so successful in reaching some of your goals, but not others? If you aren't sure, you are far from alone in your confusion. It turns out that even brilliant, highly accomplished people are pretty lousy when it comes to understanding why they succeed or fail. The intuitive answer — that you are born predisposed to certain talents and lacking in others — is really just one small piece of the puzzle. In fact, decades of research on achievement suggests that successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do.

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How to be Successful

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Female entrepreneurs deliver paper at Oklahoma State University.


Trinidad's Joseph-Chin (L) and Christopher (R) will be the only participants to take the stage from the Caribbean region.





WASHIINGTON D.C., United States, Monday March 5, 2012 - Leading Social Entrepreneur, Bra Fitting Expert and Founder of Women’s Entrepreneurial Network; Nicole Joseph-Chin will be presenting a paper at the Oklahoma State University’s First Annual Innovation in Entrepreneurial Health Conference on March 5, before heading off to participate in the Caribbean Women’s Forum in Washington DC one week later.
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Female entrepreneurs deliver paper.

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