My sister posted this link on Facebook, and I just had to share it with you.

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Too many of us, men and women, are walking around pretending to be happy in relationships with people who do not love themselves and so are unable to love us.

We have grown so used to the these relationships that we think we do not deserve better.

When you accept someone disrespecting you by lying, cheating, and abusing you in any way  then you are in essence saying to them , "This is me and I am not worth anything."

I was looking at a  movie recently in which this woman, who was abusing her body (forcing herself to throw up etc.), said to her husband- I love you. His response to her was - That's the problem, you love me more than you love yourself, more than you love God.

Men Who Cheat:
I was speaking to a good friend last night who made the statement that women in a certain country have seemingly resigned themselves to the 'fact' that ' all men cheat'. These women would therefore date a man even if they have evidence that he is cheating on them. They have no problem whatsoever putting up with his mediocrity, because they have convinced themselves that all men are cheaters. It is one thing if your spouse cheats on you once, but if cheating becomes a habit would you simply sit back and accept it?

During the past three or so weeks I have been constantly reminding myself that it is important to set high standards and to try my best to maintain them.

No, no, not the kind you see in movies or hear about in stories but the kind who might be sitting beside you right now.

You might be one and you don't even know it.

It always amazes me that so many people believe that growing up with one parent is the worse thing that could happen to a child.

So many of us have been raised by just our Moms , or our Dads and have turned out to be remarkable people.

People despise  single parenting so much that they would rather see a child be raised by two bitter people who have not an ounce of love for each other. They would rather be in abusive situations than take on the 'shame' of being alone.

10 toxic types you shouldn’t date

By Dave Singleton

Five toxic male archetypes for women to avoid:

1. Peter Pan. At first, you’re confused; he’s over 30 and (physically, at least) looks his age. And yet, there’s something about him that reads “college dorm” and “secretly wearing green tights beneath his Dockers.” You’ve found Mr. “I’ll never grow up,” otherwise known as Peter Pan — someone who can handle the superficial issues life throws at him, but don’t dig too deep looking for a strong connection, commitment, or an equally mature partnership from him. Toxicity permeates the relationship when you’re the only one who stays grounded, spinning your wheels, and wondering why you can’t land him the way you’d hoped to while he flies off to Neverland again. He’s fun, but if you think that will translate into a long-term relationship, you’re only kidding yourself. 

Related: Is he the wrong man for you?

The world is a confusing place and boy girl relationships simply make things worse. :)

Ok ignore the smiley face I am quite serious.

I have been listening to Pink's "Just Give Me a Reason", and every time I play it the line "we're just bent, not broken" sticks with me . The song goes on to say "we can learn to love again".

I believe though that there are two things you cannot force- love and compatibility.

Now before I ramble on and on the question is this- "When do you consider a relationship bent and not broken?

Marry Him!

Ever felt like you were giving your all to something, or someone, but simply not getting back anything?

You would give your last meal to that person if you had to but still they would not be satisfied; they would still stretch out their arms looking for more.

Many relationships are like this, so what do you do?

Seven Things I've Learned From 20 Years Of Marriage

Testimonies: Dating an alcoholic

Preparing To Become A Wife – 10 Tips For Single Women

By Tanika Jones

Many women dream of that special day. You know the one, where all of the attention is on her in that gorgeous white dress. The flowers, the decorations, the fancy cars and let’s not forget, her Prince Charming.

Yum yum

So today I was wondering what if the ex of my best friend (if my best friend were a girl) were to approach me and say' "...let's get together, I think we can work"; what would I do?

I would do what I would with any other guy; simply ask him- "Why?"

Then, if he gives a good answer, and I am intrigued because I am attracted to him too then I would think of other things like:

 

There is probably nothing in life so wonderful, so magical, so delicious as the way you feel the first few weeks or months when you’re falling in love.

The world looks more beautiful. You’re filled with optimism and excitement about each day. Even food tastes more amazing (if you have an appetite, that is — you may feel you could subsist on love alone!). In short, each day is pure bliss. And all because you’ve found the person who really “gets” you… the person you were meant to be with.

Welcome, my friend, to The Honeymoon Phase.

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You could say it’s my job (as a dating coach) to try to understand men and, in the process, help YOU do the same…But, truth be told, it’s more of an obsession.

I can’t walk down the street without studying the way men walk; How they do a double-take when they notice an attractive woman.

I can’t watch an episode of reality TV (read: The Bachelor) without analyzing what motivates the contestants to make the decisions they make.

...and to those celebrating birthday and anniversaries do enjoy.

Happy wedding anniversary to Patrick and Sherise Waugh (my primary school buddy).

Some of you might have spouses to enjoy the day and night with and some of you might instead be chilling with friends or alone.

It is your choice!

Do Men Like Strong Women?

  Some men claim there is nothing more attractive to them than a strong, independent, and intelligent woman. They claim that they would choose this type of woman over a weak-minded, easily led woman. Yet women who are described as strong and independent often assert the opposite — their backbone and self-determination causes issues with men and they are eventually passed over for women with less fortitude.