My sister posted this link on Facebook, and I just had to share it with you.

Click here: love, Soul ties, Lust, Self Hate



Too many of us, men and women, are walking around pretending to be happy in relationships with people who do not love themselves and so are unable to love us.

We have grown so used to the these relationships that we think we do not deserve better.

When you accept someone disrespecting you by lying, cheating, and abusing you in any way  then you are in essence saying to them , "This is me and I am not worth anything."

I was looking at a  movie recently in which this woman, who was abusing her body (forcing herself to throw up etc.), said to her husband- I love you. His response to her was - That's the problem, you love me more than you love yourself, more than you love God.



How could you possibly love another when you are unable to love yourself and why would you stay in a relationship with someone who openly hates you? Someone who loves you will not hurt you over and over so don't fool yourself. Hate brings with it hurt, countless tears, deception, feelings of being manipulated and or used, feelings of competition. A man who truly loves a woman treats her like a queen, she is not made to fight for his affection or attention, a woman who loves a man treats him like a king.

How silly is it that the things we say we will not do because we love someone, we accept from those who we claim love us.  You won't lie or cheat on him because you love him but yet you accept him lying and cheating on you and claim he loves you. hmm

 According to Tony Gaskin when we as women reinforce negative behaviour in the men we date  we can't  expect them to actually love us.


There was a meme floating around a few months ago that says we teach people how to treat us.


You have to know when a relationship is worth fighting for, but above everything else you have to know that you are worth fighting for, until you love yourself and demand that those who claim to love you actually treat you as if they do, you WILL continue to hurt.


What are you reinforcing in your relationship? Are you allowing your spouse to abuse you while you pour out endless love? Are you cultivating self-hate? Are you allowing someone to use you as their comfort zone; that place they return to when someone else is not willing to put up with their nonsense?

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