They say hindsight is always 20/20 and no one knows this better than a woman at the end of a relationship. If we were always allowed to see the end of relationships before we became entangled we obviously would avoid the pain that some endings bring us.
I believe the amount of time and effort it takes to get over a relationship is always triple the effort of actually staying in the relationship. Some relationships are simply a matter of ‘convenience’ and I guess it is easier to get over those; however, more often than not we become involved in relationships because we see a future and so we begin investing.
We invest our time in calling, in writing, in simply being there, and before we realize it we are so emotionally attached to this person that we can’t imagine life without them. We begin opening our souls to them and eventually they become so much a part of us that it all seems natural and oh so beautiful.
Then things change.
The calls become less frequent and then it seems as though every conversation ends with an argument, so you do the only sensible thing you can think of- you call it quits.
Here is where the trouble starts, the day you decide to ‘let go’; calling it quits is hardly ever as easy as some people make it out to be. It is only the first step in pulling yourself away and it is the obvious first step in rebuilding YOU.
There are times you simply have to let go and keep walking, if a relationship has ended it probably means it wasn’t meant for you and rest assured if that was not for you then there will be something better in store.
You have to let go to get to better. Let go of the all the ‘bad karma’ as some call it, let go of the empty promises, let go of the feelings of insecurity and self-doubt.
You simply have to let go to find you and though it might take you awhile to get all your parts back in the right order the main objective is to never lose focus and to keep letting go.
Let go, to let in something new!
Adriana S. King
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Needed this...
I like! There is always room for good, positive advice. Keep blogging.
"always room for good, positive advice". Agreed! We have to keep encouraging those around us. We will slip sometimes...