It was the day I paid my vehicle license or whatever that thing is called. I was going into Massy's and my beggar friend was there. I have to call him my beggar friend because he addresses me by a name he gave to me a long time ago, long before there was Brangelina, there was Star Girl and Star Boy. Anyways, this is not to discuss my ex.

I just done plug out about 1/3 of my disposable income to keep this car on the road so you know I am not in a good mood. I spotted him before he spotted me and I had a plan. As soon as I stepped out the vehicle he shouted me, "Star Girl!" I responded, "Aye, wha yo have for me?" That was my plan- I was going to beg first!. lmao He was shocked, he asked, "What I have for you? I responded, "Yes what YOU have for ME, you don't think sometimes I might want a little change to make up in the supermarket sometimes? I have more bills and responsibilities than you ah nuh." All he could say was, "Alright Star Girl."


Now, there is a woman who is trying to take over, so to her I am "Rasta Woman". I am well aware that some of us have it real hard but we should never assume that everybody is living a golden life.

It is no lie that young children are violated by men AND women.

However, it appears to me that men tend to be in the majority as it relates to sex offenders.

Recently, I've had a few short conversations with some men I admire and one thing they've all said has stuck with me- men are needed in the fight to end the sexual exploitation of women and children.

For years now the only persons to highlight this issue have been women.

I am single because I hate men. No, I don't but apparently many people think I do because I have a blog and a Facebook page on which I raise issues that affect women and children. I guess it is wrong for someone to talk about things that affect them personally. I am a woman and I am a mother and a teacher so why won't I focus on issues that affect women and children?

Stupse

On a more serious note though people, men, men usually ask, "How come you ain't married yet?", "How come you still single?", "Are you single because you too picky?"

So, hopefully after I have written this I could just direct people, men, I could just direct men to my blog for the answers to those questions.

Here goes...

I am not married because the first engagement went sour and the only other person to have popped the question is now married and I am not even sure he was serious. I mean who asks someone to marry them the very first time they actually talk to each other. We are still very good friends. :)

I am still single because the men I've dated fell short in some way or another. No, I am not bashing my exes, and I am not throwing shade. It is what it is...I am sure when they look back on their exes me included they would say the same thing. After all who lets go of 'the one'? No one does. We date because we are looking for that one person who we figure we could tolerate for the rest of our lives and until we find them we keep on dating. When we find them we do what it takes to keep them in our lives... that usually involves some vows and a ring...

Am I too picky?  Maybe I am. Why would I open up myself and my world to just any and anyone. You have to prove that you are worth my time. I need to see ambition, loyalty, respect, kindness, love for self and others...and many other things I won't put on here because men have a way of showing you what you want to see.

Then there is my 'Three Year Plan' ask any of my exes about my three year plan, then when you are done laughing come and ask me what it really entails. The long and short of it though...all circumstances being normal and manageable I am of the opinion that we date people with the intention of getting married and if there is no intent to get married then there should be a commitment to continue to the quest. Dating is a process if the outcome is more dating then you are doing it wrong. Oh, and these forever engagements don't work for me either, an engagement is the time in which you plan your wedding...you don't need 8 years to plan a wedding.


Any questions?

You've kept your standards high. You've kept your ambition and drive high also. You've done all the things you've wanted to do or you are in the process of completing a few.

You look at yourself and you figure, I am ready now.

Ready for what?

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The more and more I talk to women who are working towards purposeful and successful lives is the more I ask myself, "What's the difference between an independent woman and a gold digger?"

There really isn't much of a difference.

Dating is hard. You never know if to say, "yes" or "No" to an outing. You worry about not liking the person and or being bored to death.

Dating is hard when you are alone but it becomes harder when you are trying to do right by a your child.

06.MAR.09

Thirty-five years ago, International Women’s Day (IWD) was first commemorated in this country.

Then, even before the United Nations first observed the event, the women of St.Vincent and the Grenadines, connected with progressive organizations, came together at the Peace Memorial Hall in Kingstown to mark and celebrate the occasion. It was a brave act by these courageous young women, especially considering that in those days the issues of women’s rights were highly contentious ones and women were not well received in discussing these matters. Hats off, therefore, to those early pioneers, with women like Adrienne King, of Marriaqua, Hyacinth Charles, then resident in Kingstown, Ingrid O’Marde (née Williams) and the late Earlene Horne, of Diamonds, all playing prominent roles. Incidentally, none of the first three resides any longer in the land of her birth.

In stepping forward and calling on their sisters to stand up for their rights, those early pioneers were carrying on a long tradition of the struggle for women to be accorded their rightful places in society. IWD itself had its roots in such struggles. On March 8, 1857, garment workers in New York, tired of brutal exploitation in dingy factories, staged a strike for improved working conditions, equal rights and a 10-hour working day (days of 12-14 hours were then the norm). As was typical of the times, the strike was broken up by police and the leaders faced persecution. Fifty-one years later, on March 8, 1908, over 15,000 women in New York marched in memory of the 1857 actions, and two years later the second International Conference of Working Women held in Copenhagen, Denmark, proclaimed March 8 as International Women’s Day. By 1911, more than a million women in Austria, Denmark, Germany and Switzerland organized activities to mark the occasion. The women’s movement has not looked back since. 

I am sure you have been warned- Tell a lie and you will have to tell another to cover up and then another and another...

In short we are never able to tell a single lie, there is bound to be a ripple effect.


There is a saying that goes something like this- When yo could hide from a teef yo cyant hide from a liar.

Lies have a way of spreading and they spread fast. Gossip mongers love to hear bad things about someone.

A lie could ruin your reputation, cause you to lose opportunities and people.

To survive a lie you have to be strong enough to to shake it off, to simply ignore it. We are not meant to fight every battle. Some things and people should just be left to themselves; they more often than not self-destruct.

Those people who would be an asset to you and your journey will be able to look past the lies and see the real you...have no fear.

What is for a man he will get.

As a child I enjoyed reading.

I read EVERYTHING! I wasn't forced to read, I just read. I watched T.V. too... lots of it... during school vacations and on weekends. Television on schooldays was a 'luxury'.

Today I am glad I read as much as I did, because I often amaze myself and my students when I am able to talk about things that I should know little about.

As a teacher of English, I always tell students and parents that the key to becoming a great English student is to read.

Tonight I was talking to this guy who said something about liking the way I think and the fact that I seem to have plans.

He doesn't know it but even now at this weird hour in the morning I am still thinking about what he said.

I was about thirteen years old when my aunt sent me a book on success, a few years later I plastered the wall of my fifth form classroom with some quotations from the book, the one closest to my desk read- "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail."

I plan everything, and I plan for the failure of my plans too... :)

There is no harm in planning, and little harm in dreaming.

Sometimes dreams are all we have to push us to do better for ourselves and or others.

Plan, make room for big things to happen in your life, because you never know...

Yesterday, our family was shaken up by the fact that a mother/grandmother/sister/niece/aunt... had passed.

I have said it a million times and I would continue to say it, we seem to lose all 'humanity' when someone dies...especially under tragic circumstances.

"I'm his Wifey, you just on the side."

"I'm his wife, he comes home to me."

"She might have the ring but I have the man."

"Perhaps you should value yourself more and find a man of your own."

"I don't want your husband is he who wants me."

 I could go on and on and on and on, but my stomach weak.

I am fed up of the foolish arguments... women behaving as though men are 'mindless drones'. The main squeezes and the wives seem to think they have the upper hand while the Side Squeezes seem to think the same.

There is a comment floating around on Facebook, written by a friend of mine, that reads something like this: Shout-out to all the wives at home waiting on their husbands to return after a day of cheating. The comment was written in response to a post in which, you've guessed it Side Squeezes were being forced into the limelight.

Let's end the chit chat and face a few facts here:

I will never, ever tell anyone to make all the details of their personal life public, but there are some exceptions.

In almost any article on relationships you see one thing over and over- if your partner is really serious they will make your relationship known to others.

Yes, there WILL be some evidence of this relationship somewhere. They might take you out on dates, introduce you to their peeps and all that. With all the computer stuff that we have now, a picture of you or both of you might show up on their Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter...

A 'public statement' is his or her way of saying, "Yes, I know I am cute but I am taken. No thanks!"

When a man or woman is reluctant to acknowledge their relationship with you you better take warning.  Most likely they running a game on your or on someone else. Long story short you might want to think twice about how committed you become to this person and to the relationship.

 Like I said before you do not make public every detail of your dating life, but if someone is serious about you they will let others know.

Guard your hearts against players and playettes.

"I was raped!"

What were you wearing?
Were you wearing that pencil skirt with the slit at the side?
Or, was it the yellow blouse that makes your eyes look like sunshine?
I bet you were wearing one of those.
I told you they made you look sexy.

"I was raped!"