Never apologize for having life and relationship goals. Goals help us to stay focused and to work towards the things we think we truly deserve. They keep us accountable to ourselves and help us to reject things and people with no means/intentions of making our lives better. Your life goals are the reasons you work as hard as you do, they are perhaps the reasons you seek to better yourself. Relationship goals help you to remain true to you, they help you in finding someone who is compatible and help you to know when someone values you as much as they say they do.

Your destiny does not lie in a man or woman who walks away from you.

If someone is unable to walk through life with you then it probably means that their life goals and yours are not the same. Simply put- you are not compatible. You can’t force people to share your vision for yourself. You simply need to have faith that one day you will meet someone who has the same vision for their life as you do for yours…then you could sit and plan a course of action for world domination. *insert evil laugh

If you are afraid of being alone then you really should not be with anyone.

If you are always in a relationship, you know…one after the other, something is wrong. I think you are what some might call a ‘serial dater’.  If you jump from relationship to relationship you need to stop! Take some time to get to know yourself and if you are afraid of being left alone with you then maybe that’s the reason your relationships continue to fail. There is nothing wrong in taking a ‘breather’. Assess yourself, assess him/her, assess the relationship…this might not prevent you from making the same mistakes twice but it might just help you to understand the way you operate and to figure out how future relationships could be better.

A healthy relationship needs two healthy people.

It matters not how much you think you know about love and war if the person you are dating is not at a place where they can give love or receive love, it would be as if you were force feeding a duck. Cruel! A relationship that stands the test of time is one in which the commitment to work together is renewed daily by two persons who are like minded…not the same… like minded. When two people who know their worth and have goals of their own find compatibility with each other the relationship has little choice but to flourish. Compatibility does not necessarily mean you have the exact goals or the exact plan, it could also mean you are willing to exercise a certain level of compromise to help each other and the relationship.

Communication is key.

We all want to be heard, and so we are always waiting on our turn to talk. Effective communication means listening too. Not waiting to interrupt, listening…hearing and digesting the spoken and non-spoken words of others. If you are unable to freely communicate in a relationship, roll out. Make no apologies, simply pack your things and walk or else you will end up suffocating, sometimes literally so.  Be bold enough to express your goals and desires up front and when they change. We live, we mature and we change…I guess that’s called growth…so sometimes our life and relationship goals change.  Express yourself, but listen also.