"I'm his Wifey, you just on the side."

"I'm his wife, he comes home to me."

"She might have the ring but I have the man."

"Perhaps you should value yourself more and find a man of your own."

"I don't want your husband is he who wants me."

 I could go on and on and on and on, but my stomach weak.

I am fed up of the foolish arguments... women behaving as though men are 'mindless drones'. The main squeezes and the wives seem to think they have the upper hand while the Side Squeezes seem to think the same.

There is a comment floating around on Facebook, written by a friend of mine, that reads something like this: Shout-out to all the wives at home waiting on their husbands to return after a day of cheating. The comment was written in response to a post in which, you've guessed it Side Squeezes were being forced into the limelight.

Let's end the chit chat and face a few facts here:


1. Christians believe that marriage was ordained by God. No doubt the institution of marriage was ordained by God, but let's be honest all marriages were not. People get married for many different reasons, so when your husband makes the DECISION to start seeing someone else perhaps you need to look inside rather than throw words at another woman...or man...who knows.

2. Every woman who comes along and ends up having a relationship with your spouse is not a home wrecker, be thankful that they have shown you the mettle of which your man is made. If he falls and picks himself up then you know you have a keeper. If you have to resort to begging him to stay with you then perhaps you need a self esteem boost. Back up a bit if he has to be picking himself up over and over, you have a problem. Too many STDs floating around for you to spend your time cursing women over a repeat offender who obviously cares little for you.

3, If a man leaves his woman to be with you, watch him like a hawk; he might just leave you with the same speed. MIGHT...

4. Many wives were once the Side Squeeze. Many... lol

5. Calling another person names does not make your ladylike or classy. Just saying...

6. Your husband or boyfriend made the DECISION to cheat...hopefully... I hope he wasn't drugged or held at gun point...stop treating him as though he was.

7.  Yes, if sharing a man is the closest you could get to having a man then you need to take a few steps backwards in front of a full length mirror and just stare at yourself until he disappears. I don't care if you have the ring or the man you need your head examined.

8. If the only reason you are attracted to someone is because they are already in a relationship then you need to have your ego deflated. Relationships are not games.

I can't write anymore.

Long and short of it...as women we need to put more value on ourselves and our love. If your spouse cheats on you try to acknowledge the fact that he is his own person capable of making his own decisions, so if he made a decision to hurt you, you need to respond to his decision.

Be guided by your intelligence rather than silly emotions.

A woman is not ruining your idea of a relationship on her own, she is getting help from your spouse.