It is hard at times to not blame others for our mistakes especially when so many people say - "Oh don't blame yourself, for what happened." Now don't get me wrong there are many, many situations in which we should not take the blame; situations in which something happens that we had no control over ( a freak accident perhaps...).


There are times though that we should take the blame, because sometimes it might help us to see our short comings and build on them.

If someone we trust disappoints us it  is easier to see the dishonesty in them than to see the naivety in ourselves, or to even acknowledge the fact that we saw the signs and ignored them.

Taking the blame for something is not necessarily beating up ourselves, some times it could simply mean taking responsibility for our actions.

 The line between the two, admittedly, is quite thin so be careful.