It was the day I paid my vehicle license or whatever that thing is called. I was going into Massy's and my beggar friend was there. I have to call him my beggar friend because he addresses me by a name he gave to me a long time ago, long before there was Brangelina, there was Star Girl and Star Boy. Anyways, this is not to discuss my ex.

I just done plug out about 1/3 of my disposable income to keep this car on the road so you know I am not in a good mood. I spotted him before he spotted me and I had a plan. As soon as I stepped out the vehicle he shouted me, "Star Girl!" I responded, "Aye, wha yo have for me?" That was my plan- I was going to beg first!. lmao He was shocked, he asked, "What I have for you? I responded, "Yes what YOU have for ME, you don't think sometimes I might want a little change to make up in the supermarket sometimes? I have more bills and responsibilities than you ah nuh." All he could say was, "Alright Star Girl."


Now, there is a woman who is trying to take over, so to her I am "Rasta Woman". I am well aware that some of us have it real hard but we should never assume that everybody is living a golden life.

It is no lie that young children are violated by men AND women.

However, it appears to me that men tend to be in the majority as it relates to sex offenders.

Recently, I've had a few short conversations with some men I admire and one thing they've all said has stuck with me- men are needed in the fight to end the sexual exploitation of women and children.

For years now the only persons to highlight this issue have been women.

I am single because I hate men. No, I don't but apparently many people think I do because I have a blog and a Facebook page on which I raise issues that affect women and children. I guess it is wrong for someone to talk about things that affect them personally. I am a woman and I am a mother and a teacher so why won't I focus on issues that affect women and children?

Stupse

On a more serious note though people, men, men usually ask, "How come you ain't married yet?", "How come you still single?", "Are you single because you too picky?"

So, hopefully after I have written this I could just direct people, men, I could just direct men to my blog for the answers to those questions.

Here goes...

I am not married because the first engagement went sour and the only other person to have popped the question is now married and I am not even sure he was serious. I mean who asks someone to marry them the very first time they actually talk to each other. We are still very good friends. :)

I am still single because the men I've dated fell short in some way or another. No, I am not bashing my exes, and I am not throwing shade. It is what it is...I am sure when they look back on their exes me included they would say the same thing. After all who lets go of 'the one'? No one does. We date because we are looking for that one person who we figure we could tolerate for the rest of our lives and until we find them we keep on dating. When we find them we do what it takes to keep them in our lives... that usually involves some vows and a ring...

Am I too picky?  Maybe I am. Why would I open up myself and my world to just any and anyone. You have to prove that you are worth my time. I need to see ambition, loyalty, respect, kindness, love for self and others...and many other things I won't put on here because men have a way of showing you what you want to see.

Then there is my 'Three Year Plan' ask any of my exes about my three year plan, then when you are done laughing come and ask me what it really entails. The long and short of it though...all circumstances being normal and manageable I am of the opinion that we date people with the intention of getting married and if there is no intent to get married then there should be a commitment to continue to the quest. Dating is a process if the outcome is more dating then you are doing it wrong. Oh, and these forever engagements don't work for me either, an engagement is the time in which you plan your wedding...you don't need 8 years to plan a wedding.


Any questions?

You've kept your standards high. You've kept your ambition and drive high also. You've done all the things you've wanted to do or you are in the process of completing a few.

You look at yourself and you figure, I am ready now.

Ready for what?

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The more and more I talk to women who are working towards purposeful and successful lives is the more I ask myself, "What's the difference between an independent woman and a gold digger?"

There really isn't much of a difference.